Saturday 31 October 2015


Here’s what I think about Oprah Winfrey buying 10% of Weight Watchers! THIS FAT OLD LADY GETS HER DOSE OF IRONY | Thoughts from a Fat Old Lady

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Friday 30 October 2015

Fat Studies Conference 2016

Call for Papers: Conference Fat Studies: Identity, Agency, and Embodiment   Venue: Massey University, Palmerston North New Zealand Date: 29-30 June, 2016 Abstract submission deadline: 1 Feb 2016 Contact: Cat Pausé, PhD   Fat Studies is a post-disciplinary field of study that confronts and critiques cultural constraints against notions of “fatness” and “the fat […]

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Fabulous Representations of Fat Bodies

One of the most powerful things that I do to reinforce my personal body love journey is to seek out positive representations of fat bodies.  I live in a culture that barrages me with negative images of, and messages about, fat bodies. It’s important to me that I counteract that. I was thinking about it today because […]

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Thursday 29 October 2015

the HAES® files: Artificial Acceptance

by Emily Brown “Look at how happy she is,” you think to yourself as you see your friend walk across the parking lot towards you. She has recently lost a few pounds and seems vibrant and energetic. You can tell by the new, colorful clothes she is wearing that she has recently gone shopping for […]

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Eating In Public While Fat

Blog reader Linda wrote me the following question: When I am with people who eat less than I do, I feel really uncomfortable. Sometimes I eat about what they do and have a snack later. Sometimes I eat what I want and just feel insecure. This is NOT about anyone saying anything or looking at me […]

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Wednesday 28 October 2015

Halloween Costumes for the Curvy Girl

Halloween is coming. Do you have your costume yet? No? Well. I’m here to help. I’ve said before how much I adore Halloween because of being able to dress up as someone/something else for the night. I still haven’t quite decided what I want to be (and the clock is winding down), but I’m here […]

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When Someone Can’t Believe Fat People Can Be Happy with Our Bodies

I received this question from reader Jeanine: I was talking to a good friend of mine about Size Acceptance and she said “I just can’t believe that you could be happy with your body!”  Except it sounded more like a judgment than an acknowledgment that she didn’t understand.  What could I have said? This is a […]

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Tuesday 27 October 2015

Domestic Terrorism: Feminized Violence in Misery (1990, dir. Rob Reiner)

BitchFlicks’ theme week for October 2015 is Violent Women, including an article I wrote on Misery, which features Kathy Bates’ breakout role as deranged nurse Annie Wilkes.  I’m happy to say that this is my third time being part of one of BitchFlicks’ theme weeks, and the subject is a complicated and fascinating one.  It […]

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Link: The Creepypodsta Podcast, Episode 1

Admittedly this is veering away from the blog’s topic, but– aw shucks, it’s [the week of] Halloween, ain’t it?! My friend Jeff had the great idea for a panel discussion podcast about creepypastas, and an even better idea to have me and our friend Louisa as guest panelists.  On the maiden voyage, we talk about Candle Cove, one […]

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Vexing Vaccinations

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Monday 26 October 2015

PodCast: Dedicated Fats Part 5: Super Size (size 30+) Fatshion Options!

PodCast: Dedicated Fats (Yay! We have a name for our podcasts!) This is part five The still wonderful Sarah from Not Blue At All blog and Raven of Alternative Fats sat down again to talk about clothing companies for us fatties. This time: we talk companies who carry size 30 and above. We’re so happy to bring […]

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Tales From Retail: Costume Dos And Don’ts

Halloween is upon us once again. I’ve noticed as of late it isn’t as popular a holiday as it was when I was a peanut, but I still adore the holiday so much. It’s the one day dressing oddly is actually OK. At least to a certain extent. It can be a hard day to […]

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Sunday 25 October 2015


Well, actually, I did just throw up in my mouth a little bit when I saw this article. Oh boy, we now have a whole group of “Fat Concern Trolls,” getting together to help fatties like me to live with our chronic “disease” of obesity. Let me make this clear – FUCK YOU!!!!!!!! Is obesity […]

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Is cheese an addictive substance?

I’ve come across a couple articles recently alleging that cheese is addictive, based on a study that pointed to pizza as the most addictive food out of the 35 foods they looked at. Both articles point to the supposed opiate … Continue reading

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Saturday 24 October 2015

When Online Trolls Become In-Person Stalkers

I’ve written before about some of the ridiculous antics of my trolls. My IRONMAN 70.3 last weekend upped the ante, and resulted in not just online troll shenanigans, but also creepy in-person stuff. I’ve gone back and forth about how much of this to disclose – both because it will be disturbing to some people, […]

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Friday 23 October 2015

Metformin Does NOT Lower Birthweight Among Non-Diabetic Obese Mothers

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Celebrating Day of the Dead in My American Home

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #LoveAmericanHome #CollectiveBias Hi friends! I am sharing something really special with you today – a look at my altar. I keep this up … Continue reading


Thursday 22 October 2015

Wednesday 21 October 2015

Oprah and Weight Watchers, a Match Made In…

In 1988 Oprah Winfrey pulled a red wagon full of 67 pounds of fat – the amount of weight she had recently lost – onto the stage in what would become the highest rated episode in the history of her talk show. In addition to being a powerful woman and a role model and hero […]

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Tuesday 20 October 2015

A Plus Size Review (+ Random Pics!)

First, I would like to thank those of you who have checked on me, reached out for support or to offer support and just the awesome people in my life who keep me going when I forget what the point of everything is. Thank you! I love you! <3 Second, well, I’m doing a bit […]

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Sunday 18 October 2015

Faking Allergies – Don’t do it, but don’t assume others are faking

This article describing the process restaurant kitchens go through to avoid cross-contamination for customers with allergies was fascinating. Labels, separate cutting boards, the whole nine yards. I have mixed feelings on the article as a whole. I think it points out a real problem but is also too quick to paint people who go gluten-free […]

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Saturday 17 October 2015

Boogie Nights (1997, dir. Paul Thomas Anderson)

Paul Thomas Anderson’s breakout epic about the golden era of porn, Boogie Nights, flirts with the culturally subversive potential of the community on which it focuses.  On my recent rewatch in over a decade, the inversion of the male gaze jumped out at me.  We do see female bodies in states of undress, meant to […]

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Friday 16 October 2015

I just can’t…

These days, I just can’t. Presumably, people attach themselves to liberal and progressive activism because they value open-mindedness and tolerance. …

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Thursday 15 October 2015

5 Simple Ways to Make Happy Cat Mealtimes

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #MyCatMyMuse #CollectiveBias Hi friends! As you know, I have three beautiful cats – Ashes, Isis, and Grayson – that are my everything! To say … Continue reading


Wednesday 14 October 2015

Vin Diesel Gets Fat Shamed

Actor Vin Diesel recently had the “nerve” to appear on his hotel balcony not looking like a retouched version of himself. So the kind of people who have the free time and over-exaggerated sense of self-importance required to comment on negatively on other people’s bodies took to the internet to behave badly. A lot of the articles I […]

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A Public Letter Calling for Solidarity with Indigenous and PoC Communities and Against Conferences at Former Labor Camps and Sites of Genocide

A note from the Association for Size Diversity and Health Leadership Team: As an organization, it saddens us this conversation must be had in the face of growing exposure of white supremacy and the pervasive erasure of non-conforming and marginalized communities. People of color, indigenous peoples, and transgender folks continue to be subject to unending […]

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Tuesday 13 October 2015

Spooky Black Cat OREO Cookie Balls Recipe

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #spookysnacks #CollectiveBias Hi friends! I am SO EXCITED to share this recipe with you today! If you know me, you know I LOVE Halloween and … Continue reading


Responses to Ridiculous Justifications for Fat Shaming

Often when we post something about Body Positivity, Size Acceptance, or Health at Every Size, someone responds to it with a reply that is full of some combination of stereotyping, concern trolling, fat shaming, weight stigma, grossly misinformed discussion of weight and health etc. So then someone, either the original poster, one of their friends, […]

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Monday 12 October 2015

The Fattest Lego!

    This past weekend I attended a Halloween themed party and was excited to go and to dress up! I rarely have a reason to dress up and cannot always get into the mood of it, but this time I was! I knew what dress I wanted to wear and I bought a sailor […]

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Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

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Talking About Size Acceptance with Kids

I’ve had several questions about how to talk to kids about the fatphobic world that they live in. I wrote this post a few years ago and updated it for today. I got a comment from reader Kest about the struggle to help kids deal with living in a fat phobic environment.  It provides a […]

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Sunday 11 October 2015

Food and Consent

I love this post from the Fat Nutritionist about a couple where one is a picky eater and the other is a foodie and keeps pressuring her to try new things. People have to come around to food in their own time. If they aren’t allowed to, if they are pressured or forced or coerced […]

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Say Something Sunday – My Birthday Edition

Today, Say Something Sunday, the Fat Activism Conference, and my birthday are all on the same day and if that’s not a confluence of events for fabulous fat activism I don’t know what is! “Say Something Sunday,” is a day dedicated, at least on this blog, to personal Size Diversity activism. To be very clear, […]

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Saturday 10 October 2015

Lush Products’ Body Positive Ad Gets the Smack Down

Lush Australia is part of the beauty product company known for using ethically sourced ingredients, hand making their products, and fighting animal testing  (Full disclosure: Their Dragon’s Egg bathbombs rock my world and while they’ve never given me free product, I’m still holding out hope!) Recently they wanted to create an ad campaign to speak out against […]

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Friday 9 October 2015

Can we discuss birthdays?

How do you celebrate? How long? Who is a part of the celebration? Who plans? What do you ultimately want out of your birthday? Every year I get asked what I want to do, what’s the plan, what do I want, and it’s all too fucking much! I’ve had enough absolutely terrible birthdays to know […]

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Thursday 8 October 2015

More Evidence that Fat Stigma is Killing Us

Today, I got an email pointing me towards some new research on fat stigma.  There has been an ever increasing pile of evidence indicating that weight stigma is making us miserable and sick.  We know that weight stigma makes us fatter,  increases inflammation, increases disease burden and decreases quality of life, increases the chances that […]


Fatshion: Purple and Polka Dots

Hi friends! I’m finally getting around to posting the outfit featuring the DIY lace top I made. Check out the tutorial if you want to make your own. It’s super easy! I also wanted to thank you all again for … Continue reading


Jeopardy Category – What is Fat Shaming?

If you’re not familiar with the popular game show Jeopardy! the premise is that they have two rounds, each of which have six categories of questions with five questions per category, and then a final round with one question. Last night one of the categories was “These Words Could Go on a Diet” and it […]

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Tuesday 6 October 2015

Gardening, Fat People, and BS Infographics

About once a week I get an e-mail from a completely clueless person who has obviously never read my blog who wants me to promote some article, or infographic or something that says some version of: “Ooooga Booga deathfatzarecomingforyou!  Because of that I have made a ridiculous infographic created based on “information” that I gathered […]

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On a plus size fashion brand’s Facebook page they’d posted some photos of models in their clothing, one featuring a “tutu”, though I’d say it was more just a midi length tulle skirt. I thought they looked great. Sorry I can’t recall the brand, but what won’t get out of my head as much as […]

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New Study Suggests Obesity Doesn’t Make Joint Surgery Less Safe

I recently came across a recently published study that was published in The Journal of Arthroplasty regarding overweight and obese patients and joint surgery.  In particular, the study evaluates data from 900 hip surgeries and over 1,500 knee surgeries.  The data was evaluated in terms of weight, BMI, how often blood transfusions were necessary, complications […]


Monday 5 October 2015

Side Effects of the War on Obesity May Include…

I think that the War on Obesity should come with a side effect warning.  Something like: Caution:  The war on obesity is highly toxic. Discontinue the war and call your local Health at Every Size Practitioner if you start to think that dieting’s 5% success rate seems like good odds. The war on obesity may cause […]

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Lipedema, self acceptance, and trolls

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On Fat Studies in tertiary education

While the government is set to release their new plan to “combat obesity”, the first Fat Studies class offered in New Zealand is drawing to a close. The course, Critical Understandings of Fatness and Health, is being offered as a 300 level distance learning course within the College of Humanities and Social Sciences at Massey University, […]

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In Defense of Emotional Over-Sharing

The topic of emotional over-sharing has come up a lot lately in my circles. I have always been a fan of honesty and openness but I am encountering people who go out of their way to warn me that they … Continue reading


Fat books and homemade badges

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If You Are Fat and Sick

One of the consequences of rampant size bigotry, discrimination and bullying in society in general is that it bleeds over to healthcare providers and healthcare concepts. For example, a study concludes that “There are unacceptable levels of weight bias among UK students training to become nurses, doctors, nutritionists and dietitians.” [trigger warning:  this study is not necessarily […]

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Sunday 4 October 2015

A small taste of institutional ableism

I recently had minor surgery, and my discharge instructions included “Limit climbing stairs to once or twice daily.” I physically *can* do stairs, but my abs get a bit cranky, and I understand the recommendation that I not push it.  Since I work on the second floor in an old building with crappy elevators, it’s […]

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On promoting obesity

Back in May, I accepted an invitation to record a segment for Media Take, a show on Māori TV that looks critically at media and social issues in New Zealand. They invited me on to talk about representations of fatness in the media. They extended this invitation, even after I shared that I wouldn’t participate […]

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Planned Parenthood Talk

On Tuesday, while Cecile Richards was testifying before a house oversight committee, I was at Planned Parenthood Mid and Southeast Michigan’s Detroit health center talking to them about creating fat inclusive health care. It seemed incredibly ironic that while their staff is educating themselves about creating an enviornment to serve more people they were being […]

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Saturday 3 October 2015

“I can’t wait for people to see you, really see you:” Mad Men Season 5 (2012)

At the beginning of September, I saw Queen of Earth in theaters.  “Elisabeth Moss is such an incredible actress,” I thought to myself.  “I wish I could see her in more movies. Or I suppose could finish watching Mad Men.” I’m abominable at keeping up with series.  Mad Men is one of my all-time favorite […]

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Preschool Pain in the A$$

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Friday 2 October 2015

I’m Not Being Unkind, But…

Today I read a ridiculous concern trolling article written about Stacy Bias’s super fabulous Rad Fatty Merit Badges. The article title appears on Facebook as “Badges Rewarding Fat People Make Me Retch” and is a testament to concern trolling, condescension, stereotyping, fat shaming, and healthism. The author actually trots out the tired old tropes of “normalizing obesity” […]

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Tell me somethin’ good…

Funny how I wrote and posted thrice last week and this week? Nothin’! Ha-ha! Oh well. Honestly? I’m trying to just live and feel better and not setting goals and beating myself up over stuff. But I haven’t just been sittin’ around the house either. I mean, that does happen, especially with the amount of […]

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Thursday 1 October 2015

My Tummy Doesn’t Need Technology

I was in ye old fat girl store trying on a dress.  I was in the open part of the dressing room checking out the pleasing way that the dress hit my ass when a store clerk came in and this happened: Store Clerk: Don’t worry, some spanx will smooth that right out. Me: The […]

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How Did You Celebrate National Dog Week?

This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Beneful Brand Dog Food. All opinions are 100% mine. Hi friends! Did you know that last week was National Dog Week (September 20-26)? I’ve told you before how big … Continue reading


What “Everybody Knows” About Fat People

One of the most frustrating things to me is when I’m discussing Health at Every Size and I bring up a ton of research and someone answers with “everybody knows [insert unproved/disproved assumption here]”   I don’t know about you but I find it exhausting to be constantly assaulted by sweeping, generalized opinions that are being […]

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