Saturday, 30 November 2013

A Guilt-Free Thanksgiving

I hope everyone who celebrates Thanksgiving had a happy one. Mine was very good. Hubby and I made dinner for both sets of parents. Actually, he mostly made dinner, and I mostly made dessert. Not a word was said about calories, or who’s gaining or losing weight, or virtuous or sinful food. It was glorious. […]

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Mental illness is real. In other news, water is wet, and the earth revolves around the sun.

Apparently good Christians can’t get PTSD. Kenneth Copeland, on his show, told anyone with PTSD to just “get rid of it,” claiming that psychology and drugs weren’t necessary because God’s promises in the Bible will fix it. I don’t have words for how evil it is to tell people to go off their psych meds […]

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Friday, 29 November 2013

Sixth Annual Turkey Awards: PCOS Isn't a Real Disease

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Plan B Ineffective For Fat Women

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Plan B Completely Useless for Fat Women

Thanks to my Facebook feed I found this news story last night and am sharing it with you to raise the alarm; the Plan B or Morning After Pill, an emergency contraceptive available over the counter at the pharmacy here in Canada, and in many other places like the USA and Europe, is COMPLETELY INEFFECTIVE […]

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Thursday, 28 November 2013

Take It Back —

I love Thanksgiving. As hectic and frustrating and terrorizing as the holidays can be, there’s something so warm and comfy about gathering with loved ones we may not see on a regular basis, as well as those special few for whom once a year is pushing the limit. I know I’m very fortunate for the […]

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Wednesday, 27 November 2013

Celebrate the Holidays!

Hey everyone! I thought it would be a good idea to talk about some of the holiday traditions that are coming up soon so we can be a little more knowledgeable about the people around us. I’ll start with the closest ones and move chronologically. Hanukkah — November 28 through December 5 A Jewish holiday, […]

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Tuesday, 26 November 2013

Fatshion: Give the Gift of Taffy for the Holidays!

I was chosen for this opportunity by the Latina Lifestyle Bloggers Collective in conjunction with their annual Holiday Gift Guide. All opinions expressed are my own. Are you looking for activewear for your favorite exercising (or non-exercising) fatty this holiday … Continue reading

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On wheat and death.

Several months ago, I happened upon this little review about the connection between wheat (and other grains) on inflammation, which was pretty interesting. It reports that there are plausible physiological mechanisms linking wheat to inflammation, that there is some animal and some human evidence available to back them up, but also that population-based studies and […]

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Does Katie Hopkins deserve a seat at the table?

Most countries seem to have their outrageously, shockingly, unpleasant, bigoted media whores. In the US, it’s Ann Coulter; in New Zealand, it’s Liz Shaw; and here in the UK, we have Katie Hopkins. Lucky us. Katie was a contestant on The Apprentice back in 2007, which she used as a springboard to launch a media […]

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Monday, 25 November 2013

No, I don’t care about gay marriage.

Excuse the title, but this is the most succinct reply I can think of when hassled by conservative Christians why I can’t be bothered to participate in their culture wars. “Don’t you care about gay marriage?” they ask me. Because I have a life, I tend to use the simply reply of, “No, I don’t […]

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Oh Jezebel Really? Again?

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The Non-Dieter’s Holiday Survival Guide (Redux!)

(If this post sounds familiar, it is! I’m bringing back a slightly modified post from last year.) It seems that every year around this time, I get gazillions of emails from folks who are nervous about the holidays. Explaining to your family that you don’t want to know the number of calories in pecan pie, [...]

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Sunday, 24 November 2013

Surviving the Holidays

Every year I go to Amish Country in Lancaster, PA. While I partake in other activities, the simple reason we go is to eat. Amish buffets are amazing. Filled with all kinds of dishes roasted, baked and cooked with full...

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Friday, 22 November 2013

For the Love of Selfies

The photo above was taken in 2008 when I was 22 after spending 16 years in hiding. Over those 16 years my photo had been taken by family members or other people where the way I was photographed was more about how others settled their gaze upon me and I wasn’t able to control or […]

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Bacon-wrapped dates (stuffed with cream cheese)

I can be a bit of a picky eater due to food texture issues, so when a good friend of mine made this recipe, it took me a bit to even try it… but it was love at first bite! This is now a staple at my friends’ semi-regular potlucks and most any gathering that […]

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Thursday, 21 November 2013

That Look

It was almost as if I’d forgotten why it was that I disliked or hated eating in public alone. And then Tuesday, in the cafeteria at work, it all came rushing back to me! That look! That look rude strangers give when they see a fat person eating food. It’s a sort of lusty-hateful look. [...]

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Doctors are told to “get serious” about obesity

Trigger warning: Discussion of weight loss recommendations and weight loss surgery. This article on Yahoo! news and this one on MedPage Today had me laughing and crying at the same time. I mean, really, since when have doctors not been telling their patients that they’re fat and need to lose weight? The medical profession has […]

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Wednesday, 20 November 2013

Real Food, Real Life

Michele, the Fat Nutritionist, has a fabulous post on why the idea of “real food” is problematic. She talks about how, for every food that’s viewed as unhealthy, worthless junk, there’s someone who depends on that food in one way or another. Right this minute, there is someone going through chemotherapy shopping at your grocery […]

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Clown Tears —

I’m sad. I’m really sad. You guys, I think we’re being too hard to Lululemon. I mean, sure, their stores are accused of hiding its size 10 and 12 “fatty” pants in the back of the store. Yes, Lululemon founder Chip Wilson diverted blame for the recall of his see-through pants by telling Bloomberg News […]

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Walking In The World

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Tuesday, 19 November 2013

Why diets don’t work.

Most diets seem to succeed in the short-term, and fail in the long-term. This is not a new, or even particularly controversial, observation among researchers: “There are two indisputable facts regarding dietary treatment of obesity. The first is that virtually all programs appear to be able to demonstrate moderate success in promoting at least some […]

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Your Weight Alone Means You Are Probably Going to Have a Cesarean

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New E-Course: HAES® For The Holidays!

Did you ever notice that the holidays can bring up a lot of . . . stuff? Being with family can mean being scrutinized about your weight, your food choices, and even bigger life choices. Whether you come from a family of constant dieters or one where cleaning your plate is the best way to [...]

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Monday, 18 November 2013

Still not buying it.

Every once in a while I’ll have a bizarre fantasy of what it’s like being thin. During my dieting days, I had this fantasy frequently. I would show off my thin and beautiful bod to the people who made fun...

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Sunday, 17 November 2013

Self-esteem issues? Tough shit, you’re fat and you’re not doing anything right.

ITladyJ writes: TW; Borderline ED When I was young I was skinny, mostly thanks to ADHD medication. When I was a junior in high school I went on birth control…lo and behold, the things I was allowed to “get away with” caught up with me. I am currently 5’3″ and in the neighborhood of 165-170. […]

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Friday, 15 November 2013

I think I’m ready for a revamp!

I say, “I think I’m ready” because quite honesty these things can give me great anxiety and I get emotional, too. I know this stems from childhood stuff, but knowing why doesn’t make it any easier in the moment. So there’s that aspect. There are also the time and motivation aspects. Wanting to do something [...]

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Love Song for Internet Trolls

From The Doubleclicks: It is snarky and silly and fun. I love you, even though you’re a commenter from hell the predictable way you don’t know how to spell and you’re hateful disgusting, ungrateful like you don’t understand, other people have feelings I feel like you don’t even know if you don’t enjoy a youtube […]

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Body Positive Custom Illustration

I don't generally use this forum for self-promotion but I've recently reignited my love for illustration and I'm making a few custom portraits available between now and the holidays. Check out the gallery below and if you like my style, consider ordering a portrait from someone who will draw your body lovingly, exactly as it is. >> Read More

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When Love and Hate Collide

Trigger warnings: Mental illness, weight loss One of the hallmark traits (and probably the most frustrating one) of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is the constant back-and-forth switching of one’s opinions and decisions based on what is going on at that particular minute in one’s life. This is commonly referred to as “black and white thinking” […]

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Dealing with Diet Talk

I’ve had several readers ask about how to deal with diet talk – especially its uptick during the holiday season. There is no doubt that whether it’s donuts in the break room from a vendor, an appetizer buffet at a party, or your family holiday dinner, the more food options present themselves the more chances […]

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Thursday, 14 November 2013

Once Upon A Time — Ursula

**Spoilers** In case you haven’t heard or seen the episode yet, Once Upon A Time (a magical show in which fairytale characters are cursed by the Evil Queen to a life of normalcy… and then weirdness) featured Ariel and Ursula in one of their latest episodes. Ariel was — as you would expect her to […]

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Wednesday, 13 November 2013

More reasons why I do not trust White Feminists.

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I have had a couple of truly awful days. The worst period cramps I’ve had in ages combined with some pretty crummy things and stuff at work and I’d just had it. I had this horrifically angry woman in my head screaming awful things about people and the world and I was beginning to think [...]

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PCOS and Diabetes: Glucose-Lowering Medication Options

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Mixed Signals

I go to a local community college and I’m getting my degree(s) in American Sign Language (and a general Associates of Arts, but we aren’t going to talk about that). There are five campuses in the county I live in and the majority of my ASL classes are downtown. However, I take non-ASL classes at […]

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Fat sex talk in London next week

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Tuesday, 12 November 2013

A little less serious.

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Poison Pen

The now-infamous story about a woman, known only as “Cheryl” in Fargo, North Dakota, who said she would be handing out letters to parents of fat children trick-or-treating refusing them candy may actually be a hoax, perpetrated by a Fargo-based radio station called Y94. But even if this does turn out to be a hoax, […]

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Building Bridges: Interview with Nan Feyler

by Deah Schwartz, Ed.D., CTRS, CCC From the ASDAH Blog Committee: Welcome to another “Building Bridges” post, in which we feature interviews with health professionals, academics, and policy makers who are not necessarily identified with the Health At Every Size® movement. While some of our readers may experience our choice of interviewees as controversial figures […]

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Monday, 11 November 2013

Guess what really still doesn't work? Stigma

I'm not sure why I have to keep pointing out that stigmatizing a fat person does not make them lose weight. You see, no matter which avenue the "Obesity researcher" is coming from, they always come to the same conclusion:...

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God Help Me —

Trigger warning: Discussion of weight loss diets. As a lapsed Catholic, I hold a soft spot in my heart for organized religion. I watched with fascination as Jon Stewart grilled Richard Dawkins on whether the evils of religion are a pathology that can be found just as readily in secular institutions, a point which Dawkins […]

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Some Pics of Stuff

I keep promising pictures and forgetting to post them. My bad. So, in lieu of an actual, like, written post, here’s some pics! Woo! Unicorn Costume Right before finding out that the costume party was canceled, my roommate took this pic of my made up unicorn costume. Fun, I guess, but we didn’t get to [...]

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Real food.

“Real food” is a term I dislike almost as much as “real women,” and for many of the same reasons. On occasion, I run into this idea coupled with the concept of intuitive eating. People will proclaim how much they believe in permission and fulfilling your hunger and eating whatever you want (so far, so […]

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Fat Queer Talk and Workshop in Brussels

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Friday, 8 November 2013

Photocopying Queer at Models of Pride 21!

Last month, I had the pleasure of running the Photocopying Queer zine workshop at the Models of Pride, an lgbtqai youth conference held in Southern California. The conference is a free all-day event for lgbtqai youth, their parents, and allies. … Continue reading

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Get Your Shadows On A Tightrope Blog Carnival Links Here!

In honor of the 30th anniversary of the groundbreaking book, Shadows On A Tightrope, some of the biggest names in fat positivity are writing blog posts about their experiences with the book. Rather than write my own, I’ve decided to be a hub for these posts. I’ll be updating throughout the day, so check back [...]

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Shadow on a Tightrope: the book that made me fat

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Thursday, 7 November 2013

Ends and Means —

As a father, I sometimes find myself reminiscing to them on the history of video games like my grandparents reminisce on the dawn of the automobile. Born in 1979, I grew up in the sweet spot of gaming history, when the first in-home consoles arrived. The Atari 2600 came out in 1977, but our parents […]

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The Elephant in the Room

Jack Marshall at Ethics Alarms reports that Time Magazine’s cover story is called “The Elephant in the Room”. It’s about Chris Christie. Yup, their cover story’s title is a fat joke. Time thinks that that’s in good-enough taste to print. The Ethics Alarms post is right on in its description of Time’s use of “a […]

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Parallel Lives

Shadows on a Tightrope had the distinction of being one of the earliest fat activist/liberation books. It was a collaboration of works by different fat feminists over a decade, of essays, narratives and poems all about standing up to the...

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Every person that I have ever met has impacted me in some way. Every playground pal, classmate, coworker and bestie has left a mark. Some of those impressions were good and obviously some were pretty awful. It was my choice to do with that what I could or wanted to at the time. Bullies, abusers, [...]

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This is one reason why I have a strong self image as a fat woman

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Wednesday, 6 November 2013

Quick Link: Unapologetically Fat

Sorry for not blogging in a while. But there are lots of other great blogs out there. One of them, Unapologetically Fat, has a new post by the great Jo Geek on the current media hype around the age of puberty. Jo separates speculation from science; enjoy!

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Tuesday, 5 November 2013

Weight Loss surgery stories or -- ads?

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The good, the bad, and all the rest of it.

Just been doing a lot of reading and thinking lately. “In line with his overall body of work, Pollan suggests in Cooked that even to discuss the science of food is to begin the slide down a slippery slope that ends in the culturally corrosive and ecologically unsustainable structures of agribusiness. Put simply, ‘good’ transformations […]

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This Angry Villain

Last Sunday morning, while I was in Minneapolis with my boyfriend at the Mall of America, we were in search of coffee and food. The options are plentiful there and we wandered a good bit. We were there before most of the mall was open, but the place was full of people and activity. There [...]

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Age of Puberty: Why This Isn't About Fat (or Facts)

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the HAES® files: A Bad Case of “The Blues”

by Jon Robison, PhD, MS Imagine getting a letter from your insurance company “inviting” you to participate in a “voluntary” program to improve your health. Imagine that you received this special invitation because your Body Mass Index (an unscientific, mathematically bereft proxy for health) is 30 or greater. Imagine that although this program is “voluntary,” […]

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Monday, 4 November 2013

Ask Golda! One Important Key To Healthy Eating That People Usually Forget

When you stop restricting and start letting go of food rules, it can be hard to navigate how to eat healthfully. I have lots of things to say about this, but I wanted to share with you a really important key to healthy eating that most people forget. Check it out in this week’s edition [...]

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F@ Lib: The Next Gen

You don’t realize that you are old until you are old. There are many signs of the aging process, some more obvious than others: the wrinkles, the creaky knees, and the mysterious transformation that is exhibited when you would rather be snuggling in your bed watching television instead of going out to hear music or […]

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Plus London and the shape of the movement in the UK

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Joy in Play

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Two Sides

I love Facebook. Well, I love using it most of the time, anyway. I can stay in touch and connect with folks I simply can’t ever see in person (it’s a big world we live in). I have fb friends all over the world and how great to live in the here and now and [...]

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Saturday, 2 November 2013

Blog this week moved to Friday

I will be blogging on Friday Nov 5 instead of this Monday to honor the 30th Anniversary of one of the earliest fat activist book Shadows on a Tightrope.

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Friday, 1 November 2013

Obesity causes cancer (Really? WTF, I mean, really?!?!)

CH writes: My mother-in-law passed away 2 weeks ago. She was an amazing woman and will be missed immensely. I have been helping my father-in-law get some things sorted out relating to creditors. One of the hospitals requested a copy of her death certificate, which I hadn’t seen until yesterday. Here’s what it says: CAUSE […]

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Narrative Inquiry in Bioethics journal call for stories

The Narrative Inquiry in Bioethics journal at has a call out for stories from those of us who are fat. I’m not sure what kinds of stories are being solicited, but I’m sure that’s listed at the above link. They want stories from us so that they can make sure stories are submitted that […]

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Narrative Inquiry in Bioethics journal call for stories

The Narrative Inquiry in Bioethics journal at has a call out for stories from those of us who are fat. I’m not sure what kinds of stories are being solicited, but I’m sure that’s listed at the above link. They want stories from us so that they can make sure stories are submitted that […]

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On anniversaries

Friend of Marilyn is happy to be celebrating over two years of activity this year! I can hardly believe that I have been working under this moniker for two years, and I thought I would take a moment to consider the work I have done, the people I have met, and the ways that FOM […]

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Elusive Confidence

“Nothing is sexier than confidence!” They say, whoever “They” are. I’ve heard this a million times throughout my life, but it wasn’t until I had said confidence that I fully understood what all of the hubbub was about. I used to think how you could get such a thing, this elusive confidence junk. Growing up [...]

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LaDIYfest Sheffield Fat Activism workshop

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Control Freak No More

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