Thursday 31 December 2015

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That Time I Was a VOTY Honoree at BlogHer15

Hi friends!! So I know technically Blogher ’15 was back in July but I know you still wanna hear about my experience, right? Especially since you helped me get there! This was my first time at BlogHer and in New … Continue reading


GlitterForce is Sparkletastic!

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Wednesday 30 December 2015

Justifying my Existance

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Tuesday 29 December 2015

Obligatory End of the Year Post: 2015 Can Suck it!

Yeah I know, look on the bright side, but to be honest, and I mean brutally? 2015 beat me up in every possible way. I started the year off with a new job that was already kicking my ass with constant changes in management and endless and impossible tasks. So much so that I sprained […]

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New Years Revolutions

I’m honored to be included in a group of kick ass women in a Mashable piece about New Year’s Resolutions and the pressure to lose weight.  The wight loss industry tries to sell us this whole “New Year, New You” BS because they know that even though it’s a new year, it’s the same old them, with […]

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Friday 25 December 2015

Fatshion Friday: Finishing Touches

Before we get into the meat and potatoes of this post, I’d like to wish all of you that celebrate a Merry Christmas. I hope that you’re spending it with people you love and that you’re in a loving environment. For those of you that don’t do holidays: I hope that you’re able to spend […]

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Thursday 24 December 2015

Holiday Resources

Every year, this is one of my biggest e-mail days – when I receive the most e-mails asking for help or support dealing with fatphobia during the holidays – from those who are celebrating and those who aren’t.  For some people, the holidays are filled with fun family get-togethers and happy memories and festivities. For many people, […]

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Wednesday 23 December 2015

New Year Shoe Candy

So, last Friday I gave y’all some ideas for really cute outfits for New Year’s Eve. Now, y’all can’t go out barefoot, right? Unless you’re headed to a beach or something (if you are, take me with you!) So: here are a few choices for some really pretty shoes, from heels to loafers. Let’s go! […]

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Tuesday 22 December 2015

April's Birth Story (respectful natural hospital birth)

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If Gyms Were Honest

As the New Year hurtles toward us here in the States, gyms are beginning to (even more than usual) write checks that their actual results can’t cash. But don’t worry, when their promises turn out to be not worth the annoying postcards they’re printed on, they’ll blame you for failing, and try to sell you the same […]

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Monday 21 December 2015

Makeup Monday: Take It Off!

The title tells you the best tip in the world about having great skin: take your makeup off at night! It’s advice I would do well to practice consistently. But don’t be me, y’all. Be better than me! Anyway. I’ve gotten questions about my skincare regimen for a while, and since we’re in the middle […]

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Five things I have learned from writing this book

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Sunday 20 December 2015

Say Something Sunday – Say Nothing Edition

All year long we’ve been doing “Say Something Sundays,” a day dedicated (at least on this blog)  to activism.  I want to take today to remind you that activism is always an option, but it’s never an obligation. It’s ok if you see or experience injustice/oppression/bullying and you choose not to do anything.  It might be because […]

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Friday 18 December 2015

Around We Go Again – The Plus-Size Retailer Merry-Go-Round

It seems every week we see the same conversation hashed out in social media/articles over plus-size retailers.  It goes like this. ·         Plus-size clothing brand puts out new set of photos of “curvy” women (all too often in their underwear rather than the clothes they are selling) with “Everyone is beautiful” strain of slogan.  (Note: […]

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Fatshion Friday: What Are You Doing New Year’s Eve?

I certainly hope you’ll be getting all dolled up and going out for the night! I know I am. January 1, 2015 I was happily dancing away in a club with my friends, and I’m looking to do that all over again. Now, I told y’all about all my mishaps getting my outfit. This year, […]

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When the Dinner Table Becomes a Stage

I wrote yesterday about people’s bad behavior around fat friends and family at the holidays.  I got a bunch of e-mails telling me that discomfort around food is the worst, so I thought I would re-post this piece examining the ways that our culture screws us up around food, and some things we can do […]

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Thursday 17 December 2015

Who else but Fat Amy? Pitch Perfect (2012, dir. Jason Moore), Pitch Perfect 2 (2015, dir. Elizabeth Banks)

One of the inspirations for this blog was an article I came across on AV Club:  Fat Monday: 16 realistic depictions of overweight people in pop culture. (The comforting tagline: “Eddie Murphy doesn’t appear once on this list.”)  I appreciated the intention, but it didn’t go far enough for my liking (obviously).  “Realistic” is a […]

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How to Not Ruin the Holidays for Your Fat Friends and Family

I spend a lot of time helping fat people deal with the bullshit fat shaming that comes our way daily, and that often escalates at the holidays (whether we celebrate them or not.)  I try to be clear that these things are not our fault, even though they become our problem and that the problem isn’t […]

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Wednesday 16 December 2015

Nail Adventures: Disco Snowflakes

It’s December, and NYC hasn’t seen an inch of snowfall yet. As a matter of fact, I’m typing this in a tank and leggings. Like, it’s warm outside. I am not complaining. I do like the snow, and do miss it just a little bit. It’s really pretty when it first falls. It’s even prettier […]

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What If You Hate Exercise?

I got this e-mail today: “I’m thinking about my New Year’s resolutions and I want to make exercise one of them (not for weight loss, I know that doesn’t work) but because I understand that it’s good for my body. The problem is, I absolutely hate it so I don’t know if doing it fits […]

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Tuesday 15 December 2015

The Healing Effect of Health At Every Size College Courses

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Currently in December

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Til Weight Do Us Part

A man wrote a letter to Dear Prudence saying that he had “zero feelings” for his wife of 25 years, and mother of his three kids, as she had gain 50 pounds in the last 10 years which he referred to as a “major turnoff.” You can see his full question and Prudie’s answer (which […]

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Monday 14 December 2015


How do you handle rejection? How do you handle repeated rejection…for like 7 months?! I just received two rejection letters from jobs that I was certain would come through. I’m beside myself at the moment and need to find the energy and motivation to clean my apartment tonight and paint my nails because I have […]

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Makeup Monday: Day at the Museum

Hello Lovelies! So, Saturday I actually took a day off. No work, no writing, just a day to actually enjoy my life a bit. I have a habit of living life with all cylinders going. If I’m not at the day job, I’m grinding on my cookbook and photography projects. And I love being busy, […]

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Archiving Fat Activism

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If These Bodies Could Talk

I was trying to decide what to write about today and then I got a comment from Hera339 that absolutely inspired me: “I’ve been reading your blog for a while now, but just found this post, Since finding SA 2 years ago, I have come to accept my fat body, but this post…this made me fall […]

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Sunday 13 December 2015

On Candles and Darkness

I’m just coming back from a week-long vacation, seeing family, relaxing, and reading a lot. But in the world beyond my little personal bubble, it’s been a really bad couple weeks. Terrorist attacks in Paris, Libya, Mali. An outpouring of religious hatred against refugees fleeing for their lives, with presidential candidates fanning the flames. And […]

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Saturday 12 December 2015

The Holiday Boundary Setting Song

One of the most frequent questions I get during the holidays is about how to deal with people – especially family – who are behaving badly. For me the secret is boundaries. I think it’s best to start by deciding what constitutes behavior that you will put up with. If it’s anything other than “anything goes” […]

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Friday 11 December 2015

Feed Me Friday

I have shared previously that I have an eating disorder (anorexia) and often struggle to eat when my anxiety, stress or other factors are looming heavily in my day/life. Living alone for the first time in my life has also proved to be challenging in that I no longer receive external cues for when to […]

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Thursday 10 December 2015

To the person/entity commenting as Wheelchair

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Celebrate Your Special Occasion at WP24 by Wolfgang Puck

Disclosure: I received a complimentary meal for two and compensation for this post courtesy of JW Marriott Los Angeles L.A. Live. That said, all opinions are 100% my own. Hello friends! Last weekend, my cub and I ended our long … Continue reading


the HAES® files: I am free to have a body that is unique to me

by Jessica Andersen and Ashley Simon of My Body Does   Living in the United States, it is clear that anyone and everyone has a right to women’s bodies – sometimes more of a right than a woman herself. People talk about women’s bodies, police women’s bodies. As women, we are completely surrounded by images that reduce […]

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It’s a Lifestyle Change Alright

Harriet Brown, wrote a fabulous piece for Slate called “The Weight of the Evidence:  It’s time to stop telling fat people to be thin.”  It is making the rounds on social media again and I shared it on my Facebook wall.  Immediately (and completely predictably) someone jumped in and attempted to win Diet Bingo all […]

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Wednesday 9 December 2015

2015 studies on d-chiro-inositol

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Fatshion Fantasies: My Colorful Faux Fur Jacket Dreams

Being the proud owner of this fine, fat body, I have often longed for certain garments that are not readily available or accessible to my size. Growing up it was more due to poverty than anything else, with Guess jeans and Keds and so many other trends I couldn’t follow (for the best I think […]

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What This Cat Teaches Us About Body Positivity

One of my favorite thing about the work I do is when people tell me that they finally “get it” that the world is messed up, but they are fine, and they always have been.  Sometimes I get e-mails from people who have had the revelation reading my blog or book, and the blogs and books […]

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Tuesday 8 December 2015


No, seriously, they make me laugh! Just not my thing. No judgement for those who enjoy making them or the few that actually do stick to and achieve them, but that’s not what this post is about. This is about the societal pressure to conform all in the name of resolutions. Shall we? res·o·lu·tion ˌrezəˈlo͞oSH(ə)n/ […]

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LA Radio’s “The Woody Show” Fat-Shames for Fun and Profit

The Woody Show, the morning show on LA radio Alt 98.7, has a regular segment called “Fat Chick/Skinny Chick.” According to Allison Ficht, who blogged about this for the Ms. Magazine Blog: The game starts with the DJs asking the participant a series of questions, and then filing the answers under a “fat” or “skinny” column. […]

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Monday 7 December 2015

Pic-Filled Update Post Part 2 (Whoa Selfies!)

I used to really struggle with having my picture taken. I would hide or scowl or whatever I could to avoid it. On my journey to self acceptance I took it upon myself to get over that shit. I started by doing really bland and generic outfit posts for the Fatshionista group back in the […]

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DIY Publishing and Fat Activism

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Ridiculous Holiday Diet Tips

The “holiday season” means being bombarded with ridiculous diet advice (“The Holidays are Coming” being one third of the Dieting Axis of Evil along with “New Years Resolutions” and “Bikini Season is Coming”.)  Since you’re likely to have to deal with this whether you celebrate the holidays or not, in another DancesWithFat annual tradition I’ve […]

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Sunday 6 December 2015

Sex Toy Company’s Failed Fat-Shaming Ad

A sex toy company created an ad featuring a fat woman in a bra, panties and fishnets with the captain “Make the right decision.”  It turns out that people were not impressed with the idea a company would think it was ok to suggest that you should buy their toy rather than have sex with […]

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Saturday 5 December 2015

Fatlicious Holiday Gift Giving Guide 2015

Tis the season to spoil those you love, and yourself, with some fatlicious gifts. Below is my guide to fatlicious shopping for the 2015 holiday season. Must haves The Adipositivity Project 2016 calendar   Bellies are badass tote from Kirsty Winters   For the stocking Back Fat is Bitchin patch   Start a revolution: Love your […]

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Amy Schumer Isn’t Fat and Other Things That Don’t Matter

In response to the ridiculous fat shaming that Amy Schumer’s mostly nude photo has wrought, one of the common defenses of Amy that I’ve been seeing is “she’s not even fat!” The thing is that if someone is being shamed, stigmatized, bullied etc. for being fat, and we say “they aren’t fat” or “they aren’t even […]

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Friday 4 December 2015

Sundries, November 2015

A rundown of fat characters in films I saw over the past month, but didn’t post about. Stranger by the Lake (2014, dir. Alain Guiraudie) A French thriller set at a remote cruising spot, following Franck (Pierre Deladonchamps), who witnesses his favorite hookup Michel (Christophe Paou) committing murder.  Almost all of the characters in the […]

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Pic-Filled Update Post Part 1

I kept meaning to post an update with a ton of pics from Halloween through Thanksgiving, but a lot has happened in the last month and well, Life! So, here it is and I hope you enjoy! My birthday was shit, but here’s what I wore: RebDolls long tank dress in black with Torrid pink sweater […]

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Gut bacteria and blood sugar

There is an interesting new study out that looks at gut bacteria, a personalized-diet-creating algorithm, and blood sugar. Basically, they collected a bunch of data including biometrics (e.g. age, weight, hip circumference, A1c), family history, and, notably, gut bacteria (in … Continue reading

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Steven Crowder – A Study in Impotent Fat-Shaming, Sexism, and Misogyny

The “Pirelli Calender” is released each year by the Pirelli Tire company, heretofore featuring nude, partially nude, or nearly nude models chosen for their ability to approximate the current stereotype of beauty as models.  This year Pirelli deliberately took a different approach, choosing photographer Annie Leibovitz to photograph women chosen for their achievements across various fields from […]

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Thursday 3 December 2015

“Anyone, no matter how odd or pale or chubby, can still have a good time:” The Addams Family and Addams Family Values (1991 and 1993, dir. Barry Sonnenfeld)

At first I was ambivalent about Uncle Fester, but it didn’t take much research to convince me that he is a fat character.  On his Wikipedia page, there is a quote from creator Charles Addams describing him as “fat with pudgy little hands and feet.”  Although his body is obscured under his black robe, he has […]

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Why is “Precious” Still a Punchline?

I am a comedy geek. I love comedy! I often think it’s my own odd version of therapy in some ways. I mean, I love The Walking Dead and American Horror Story, but for me those are more fantasy than straight up drama. I like a good drama, mind you, but on television I tend […]

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the HAES®. Body Peace, World Peace: Freeing Ourselves and Each Other Through Yoga.

by Julie Norman, BS, E-RYT   I came to know body peace and recovered from an eating disorder long before I ever struck a pose, saw a therapist, or journaled. However when asked how I got better, and stay that way despite dismal statistics, I say yoga. In this piece I’ll share why and invite you […]

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When Fat People Show Up

One of the ways that fat people are oppressed is through media erasure – as a culture we choose our singers, actors, dancers, comics, entertainers etc. based on their ability to meet a stereotype of beauty first, and then their talent.  Thinness and the current ideal of beauty become the golden tickets that allow people […]

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Wednesday 2 December 2015

Too Much

I woke up late in the day, relying on my trusty drug store brand NyQuil knock off to keep my cold symptoms in check enough for me to get some healing sleep. I wipe the sleep dust from my eyes and roll over to grab my water bottle. The puggyman stirs in his slumber until […]

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A Place for Separatism: Straight Talk About Survivorship Part One

I’m a survivor of trauma and domestic abuse. I’m a survivor of economic hardship. I’m a survivor of a lot …

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Raging Liberal Bias Redux

It has been three years since I posted this and I am, in many respects, a different person with a …

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What I Accept, What I Deny, and Random Facts about your Host

So it’s been some time since I’ve updated a blog regularly. Now that I have a few new followers, I …

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Tuesday 1 December 2015

Physical Recovery After CBAC

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A Response to the Fat Shaming on the London Subway

If you’ve not heard by now, someone on the subway in London was giving out fat shaming cards to women and then,  like the cowards these people always seem to be, running away off the train. The cards said that they were made by a group called “Overweight Haters Ltd.” When the story first broke there was […]

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