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Wednesday, 6 June 2018

Is It Wrong To Shame Shamers?

DefendThose who mistreat us often try to shield themselves from the consequences of their actions by trying to create a false equivalence between their mistreatment of us, and our speaking out against that mistreatment. So when someone says “Stop oppressing me. You are harming me.” the bigot will try to respond with something like  “Why are you shaming me? What about my beliefs? Where’s your tolerance, huh?”

This is patently ridiculous, but it can still trip up otherwise rational critical thinkers because they DO want to be tolerant, and they DO want to be better people than their bigots. So let me be perfectly clear – “I want to oppress you”  and “I don’t want to be oppressed”  are not two reasonable sides of the same coin. They are not both legitimate viewpoints. Trying to oppress someone is not a viewpoint, it’s an act that harms someone.

Do not let some troll tell you that calling out bullies makes you a bully. Calling out people for harming others is not remotely the same as perpetuating shame, stigma, bigotry, bullying or oppression. Calling out bullies makes you a hero.

This comes up in professional situations as well. I’m commonly asked how to call out fat oppression that happens at conferences, online spaces etc. without shaming the person doing the oppressing. While I’m often willing to give the benefit of the doubt that the person doing the harm is doing it unintentionally, I believe that our primary concern MUST be the well being of the people they are harming, and not the feelings of the person doing the harming.

So the first time I see someone engaging in oppressive behavior – if it’s not blatant and I feel they should get the benefit of the doubt – I’ll take that person aside or shoot them a private e-mail. But if their behavior doesn’t stop, then neither will mine, because they are harming people and I’m not going to sit idly by while that happens. So I’ll continue to insist that they stop harming people, I may enlist other people to do the same, I may start a petition or a letter-writing campaign. The difference between activism and bullying is intent  – bullies intend to harm people. Activists intend to stop bullies from harming others.

This is summed up pretty neatly in something called The Paradox of Tolerance, coined by philosopher Karl Popper in 1945:

Unlimited tolerance must lead to the disappearance of tolerance. If we extend unlimited tolerance even to those who are intolerant, if we are not prepared to defend a tolerant society against the onslaught of the intolerant, then the tolerant will be destroyed, and tolerance with them. — In this formulation, I do not imply, for instance, that we should always suppress the utterance of intolerant philosophies; as long as we can counter them by rational argument and keep them in check by public opinion, suppression would certainly be unwise. But we should claim the right to suppress them if necessary even by force; for it may easily turn out that they are not prepared to meet us on the level of rational argument, but begin by denouncing all argument; they may forbid their followers to listen to rational argument, because it is deceptive, and teach them to answer arguments by the use of their fists or pistols. We should therefore claim, in the name of tolerance, the right not to tolerate the intolerant.

There is a beautiful article by Parker Malloy that further explains the concept and shows how it applies to the current situation in the US.

Basically, the assertion that we have to tolerate people who are actively trying to harm us is best stated as “Please participate in your own (and other people’s) opression by allowing me to oppress you (other people) with absolutely no pushback.” That’s bullshit and you don’t have to prove your tolerance by allowing someone to harm you or others. People are allowed to believe whatever they want. But when they try to turn their personal beliefs into actions that harm you, you have every right to speak up and fight back.

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Ketogenic Diets and Lipedema: Apply Caution

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Be smart; do your research before jumping on the ketogenic bandwagon
One of the biggest trends in lipedema treatment world right now is the ketogenic diet. Folks in lipedema communities are all a-flutter over it, considering it practically a cure. There are tons of sessions about ketogenic diets at the lipedema conferences and it's being heavily promoted on lipedema websites and support groups.

I have decidedly mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, I'm a big believer in people being in charge of their own healthcare, and if this is something they want to try, it's okay with me. It's good to consider different therapeutic modalities. On the other hand, it bothers me to see people promoting it so strongly online, as if it is a proven therapy, as if it is a cure. It's NOT.

In fact, we have little actual evidence about ketogenic diets for lipedema, mostly just the word of a few doctors and therapists who believe it is "the answer." We have the stories of some people who are in the honeymoon phase of weight loss on the diet. We have no long-term evidence that it helps lipedema.

What is a Ketogenic Diet?

A ketogenic diet is a dietary approach that promotes a high fat intake and a moderate protein intake, while keeping carbohydrate intake to a bare minimum (no more than 50g per day). In other words, you can have plenty of meats, fats, and low-carb vegetables, but grains, fruits, and higher-carb veggies are not allowed. You can have lots of bacon, steak, and nuts but no rice, bread, pasta, peas, corn, apples, grapes, pears, or bananas, etc.

It's a nutritional plan designed to trigger ketosis in your body. Your body uses glucose for energy, which is largely created from the carbs you eat and then stored as glycogen. If you eliminate carbs from your diet, your body uses up its stores of glycogen, runs out of energy, and needs to find a replacement. So it turns to its stores of body fat and starts consuming them. The by-product of this process is ketones.

Ketosis (ketones in your system) results from the burning of fat for energy when the intake of other energy (carbohydrates) is too low to supply the body's needs. To see if you are spilling ketones in your urine, you can buy testing strips from most pharmacies. You pee on them and they will tell you if you are in ketosis and if so, how much. The aim of the diet is to get you into major ketosis territory so your body will hopefully burn up the lipedemic fat.

Ketogenic diets do very well at producing a quick and very strong initial weight loss. Much of it is water weight but muscle and fat is also burned, leading to more weight loss, at least for a while. Some people report feeling marvelous on it, while others report feeling terrible (the "keto flu"). Sometimes this effect is temporary (the first few weeks) and sometimes it never resolves.

Reservations About Ketogenic Diets

When looked at historically, it can be seen that dietary approaches rotate in popularity. Vegetarian, vegan, alkaline, low-fat, low-carb, no grain, no carb, Paleo, eating "clean" ─ all are dieting/weight loss trends that have cycled in and out of popularity over the years. None show any better long-term results than the others.

If you lower calories, your body will initially lose weight for a while, and then it will slowly adapt its metabolism to the new lower intake and the weight loss slows down and stops, then starts reversing. Sometimes you can overcome these plateaus for a while but nearly always the weight eventually returns, often with friends. There are a few people who manage to sustain large weight losses over many years, but they are statistical outliers, and many do it at the price of eating-disordered behaviors around caloric intake and exercise.

Remember that there is NO research proving improvement of lipedema with a ketogenic diet. Nor is there any research proving long-term permanent weight loss with ketogenic diets. The current push for ketogenic diets is the lipedema and medical community pretending to be size-friendly and pro-health but still exhibiting an underlying diet and weight loss mentality. The paradigm is just too ingrained in them to let it go:

  • Sure, we know that lipedema is really not your fault ─ but don't you dare let up on your relentless focus on dieting and exercise or you'll blow up like a balloon! 
  • Sure, it's not just a matter of restricting calories ─ but you really should restrict certain toxic foods. If you don't, you'll make your lipedema worse and you'll end up in a wheelchair!

Caregivers and far too many patients are still stuck in the same old guilt/shame/scare/restrict dieting mode, even if they no longer call it a diet. They may call it a "lifestyle change" but it really is just another diet. 

For a while it was an anti-inflammatory diet that was supposed to lessen the effect of lipedema. Now that has started to go out of fashion and it's all about the ketogenic diet. Pretty soon the ketogenic diet will go out of fashion too and something new will be "the" fix. But whatever the latest trendy approach, it's all still dieting, bottom line.

That's not to say that you should just "let yourself go." There's nothing wrong with focusing on healthy habits and nutrient-dense foods. No one is saying that people with lipedema should pay no attention to their health. You don't want to exacerbate the lipedema. But we do need to be cautious not to let that care become part of the Diet Fixation that is so prevalent in our society.

Be especially leery of nutritional approaches that take out entire food groups, that are highly restrictive in intake, that cast foods into "good" and "bad" categories. Foods aren't moral or immoral; they have no value judgment. Some are healthier for you than others, some work better with your particular body than others, but everyone is an individual. Sweeping dietary restrictions don't generally work very well for groups. Moderation and variety seems to be the best keys.

Remember the profit motive of this latest trendy diet. Although the "keto experts" are well-meaning, the patient often ends up paying hefty amounts for advice. And the so-called experts usually spin their approach into a whole cottage industry that makes them all kinds of money. Keto lifestyle coaches abound online these days and have many "packages" available for lifestyle advice. All of it is for a profit. It colors everything they say. Even caregivers who consider themselves neutral often have financial interests in the weight loss industry that influence their views. View everything with a giant grain of salt.

Look beyond the salesmanship, the scare tactics, and the short-term personal testimonials. Ask what real evidence we have on ketogenic diets. Keep asking about this on lipedema groups promoting ketogenic diets and listen to the deafening silence or culture of denial. It's very revealing.

What Does the Research Say?

Bottom line, there does not seem to be any studies on ketogenic diets and lipedema. 

All the claims online about how effective ketogenic diets are for lipedema seem to come from anecdotal stories. A few isolated case reports exist, which are essentially anecdotal evidence too. Although we should not dismiss anecdotal evidence out of hand, neither should we consider such a therapy proven. It's not proven at all.

The ketogenic diet does have some uses in fields other than lipedema. It's important not to dismiss it completely. It was first used in 1920 to help people with epilepsy. It has been shown to be extremely helpful in children and adults who experience chronic severe seizures ─ but perhaps at a price. There seems to be some cognitive decline in young children on a ketogenic diet, but whether that's worsened because of the repeated seizures or whether a combination of repeated seizures and a ketogenic diet makes things worse is unknown.

The ketogenic diet has also been shown in some limited research to be helpful against certain types of brain tumors (glioblastoma). It's not a cure, but it may help at least delay progression. However, although there is lots of speculation and pressure for its use with other cancers, there is no conclusive proof of its utility on other cancers at this time.

A low-to-moderate carbohydrate diet has been shown to improve certain cardiac risk factors in newly diagnosed diabetics, but follow-up is generally only about a year, not long enough to judge its long-term usefulness. Still, it may well lower insulin levels long-term, so that is potentially a benefit to some.

However, while ketogenic diets typically improve triglycerides, HDL cholesterol, and blood sugar temporarily, some data suggests they may worsen LDL cholesterol. Whether that is truly risky or not is unclear.

Furthermore, many people report significant G.I. issues like nausea, vomiting, and constipation with a ketogenic diet. Other potential risks may include kidney stones or other kidney problems, electrolyte imbalances, dehydration, vitamin deficiencies, muscle loss, leg cramps, and decreased bone density. Bad breath, fatigue, and sleep problems have also been reported. While a ketogenic diet is probably not super-risky, neither is it without harm in the literature. Many dieticians recommend against it.

Ketogenic diets get good buzz because there are often significant drops in weight in the first few weeks of the diet. This is largely due to fluid loss, not fat loss. Since women with lipedema often retain serious fluid in their bodies, they can experience really big drops in weight ─ at first. But will it last? As two dietitians note in an article on the keto diet:
"As you limit carbohydrates, your body produces less insulin, and glycogen stores (how carbs are stored) in the muscles and liver are depleted. For every 1 gram of glycogen that's depleted, you lose about 3 grams of water." This causes the kidneys to flush out more water, and along with it, electrolytes your body needs like magnesium, calcium, sodium, and potassium. "Imbalanced electrolytes can lead to muscle cramps, irregular heartbeat, fatigue, cognitive distortions, and lack of body temperature control," Turoff says...
"I wish people knew that the weight loss they will initially experience on this diet is largely due to water loss," Brown says. That means you're most likely not actually losing fat in the first couple of weeks, but instead losing water that will come back in the form of glycogen stores if and when you start eating carbs again.
As far as weight loss goes, a meta-analysis of a number of studies found that ketogenic diets resulted in greater weight loss than low-fat diets ─ but a review of this meta-analysis noted that the difference was only about 1 kg (2.2 pounds), and once the participants reached the 24 month mark, any significant difference between groups disappeared. Not exactly impressive results.

This is typical of nearly all weight loss research. There is an initial period of significant weight loss, lasting anywhere from a few months to around 1-2 years, and then the weight is slowly regained. Often the person regains to a higher weight than their starting weight. The question becomes whether people are better off for having lost the weight and regained it, or if they would have been better off being stable at a higher weight.

Reviews note over and over that a ketogenic diet is generally quite difficult to sustain long-term. Many "long-term" ketogenic studies actually only last 6 months to a year. Drop-out rates are extremely high because it is such a hard diet to follow, and this makes it difficult to interpret what data there is.

Conclusion

One of the trendiest things in lipedema care these days is the ketogenic diet. It is routinely being promoted as a "must try" fix. Physically, it rewards participants with a large quick weight loss, and emotionally, it gives a feeling of control over the uncontrollable. People are glad to at least be doing something in hopes that it will help. It's understandable that it's so appealing to many and has caught on so quickly. But the reality is that it's just another unproven diet fad, cycling around for another turn on the Diet Wheel of Frustration.

That's not to say that the ketogenic diet is never useful. Clearly, it has been very useful in those with serious seizure disorders. But for lipedema? That is completely unproven at this point.

But I'm not going to tell you to not do this diet. You control your own body and your own healthcare decisions. I'm not the Diet Mafia. If you want to do the ketogenic diet, go right ahead. My advice if you try it is to avoid extremism, consult a dietitian so you do it more wisely, take supplements, drink lots of water, and stay flexible. Give it your best shot but don't feel bad if you find it difficult to sustain this diet or if you don't get the long-term results you were hoping for. Lots of other people have had similar issues.

Many people try the ketogenic diet for a while, lose fairly significant amounts of weight pretty quickly, sometimes even from the legs ─ then find the weight comes back no matter what they do. Or they simply cannot live with the extremes of the diet and stop following it after a while because it is so difficult to sustain long-term.

That was pretty much my experience with the ketogenic diet, years ago as a young adult when I was still riding the diet merry-go-round. I lost 50 lbs. on it in six months, but in the end began gaining weight uncontrollably even while still on the diet. Eventually I found it to be simply unsustainable and stopped. I found that after my ketogenic diet, I actually had more lipedemic fat (though I didn't know what to call it then) than when I started, particularly around my belly. That really turned me off of it. It had good initial results but they didn't last any better than any other diet or "lifestyle change" I did. In fact, it made things worse in the long run.

That was my last really big diet. After that, I turned to the Health At Every Size approach and stopped yo-yo dieting. I found I was so much healthier in my food choices, my lab numbers improved, my weight stabilized, and I just FELT so much better, both physically and emotionally. I tried to emphasize more exercise and eat moderately but didn't guilt myself too much about it. Everything in moderation ─ including moderation ─ became my motto.

Some people swear by the ketogenic diet, and if it works long-term for you, more power to you. But stop promoting it as if it has been proven to be a cure for lipedema. It hasn't. It hasn't been shown to result in long-term weight loss either. You can mention to others that you are trying it, you can talk about the pluses and minuses, you can share your experience with it, but please refrain from making unproven claims and stop pressuring other people to try it.




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Monday, 4 June 2018

Yes, Fat People Have the Right to Exist

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Fat people have a right to exist in our fat bodies.  We have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness and those rights are inalienable – they are not size, health, or healthy habit dependent.  Those rights include not living under ceaseless institutional stigma, bullying and oppression, or being made combatants in a war waged upon us by our government, which is also trying to recruit our friends, family, co-workers, companies and anyone else they can get to engage in combat against us for how we look.

You cannot have a war on obesity without having a war against obese people.  You cannot have a war on childhood obesity without having a war on fat kids.  Wars have casualties.  So when you use words like “war” and “eradicate”, when you say that you want to eliminate obesity and suggest that fat people should do extremely dangerous things like have our stomachs amputated, or eating 500 calories a day and getting injected with  urine, all in the pursuit of thinness, it starts to sound like “eliminate obesity” means that they want us either thin or dead, and they don’t much care which.

The research about weight and health upon which this goal of eradicating fat people for the good of society is built does not meet the basic criteria for competent research.

The methods used to calculate the “cost” of obese people are at best incredibly poorly done and, at worst biased and profit-driven,

Even if the studies did meet basic requirements for competent research, it is not ok to choose a group of people who are identifiable by a single visible physical characteristic, attempt to calculate their cost on society, and based on those numbers suggest that they should be eradicated to make things cheaper for everyone else.

If you are fat, you have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness without shame, stigma, bullying or oppression, in the body you have now.  It doesn’t matter why you’re fat, what the “consequences” of being fat might be, or if it’s possible to become thin. You have the right to stand up and say that the war being fought against you is not only based on faulty intel, but is unjust in every way. Those are basic civil rights. LIke every fight for civil right (none of which should be necessary) you have the right to fight back, to say that if they want a war, you will damn well give them one.

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Saturday, 2 June 2018

Is Dust Making Us Fat?

WTF are you doingI got an e-mail from a blog reader who prefers to remain anonymous who said “My mom just told me that studies show that dust makes you fat. I’m freaking out and I’m too scared to Google – do you know anything about this? Is this really a thing?  WTF?”

I did some Googling and found that the source is likely an article posted on a diet site that claims it can help people lose weight by showing them pictures of things they could eat instead of other things. The article (which I’m not linking to – if you want to give them traffic you can Google it,) was called “The Weird Way Your Dirty House Is Making You Fat.” After spending the first two -thirds of the article suggesting that this is based on research and evidence, they admit that the research team has, in fact, no idea if it’s true. Further, if it is true they don’t have any idea how much dust exposure might cause what amount of weight gain. The research team themselves say is it is only “a potential novel threat.”  This article does not smack of scientific rigor.

This is incredibly common. When it comes to weight and health – whether it’s a discussion of what makes people fat, or a discussion of what might make us thin, or if fat makes us “unhealthy” by some definition, scientific method seems to fly (or, perhaps more accurately, be thrown) right out the window. Sometimes it’s studies that are embarrassingly poorly designed (often for profit.) Sometimes it’s research that isn’t so much research as it is finding commonalities among outliers. So-called research on the efficacy of weight loss is even worse – as Lucy Aphramor clearly showed,

My point here is that a combination of scientific illiteracy among reporters, a 24-hour news cycle that too often cares more about eyeballs than getting to the truth of the story, and the profitability of anything and everything anti-fat, it can be absolutely impossible to get any kind of true information about weight and health. So we have to be smart about this. In the case of the fat and dust article they eventually came right out and said that their claim was ridiculous, but it’s not always that easy. We need to ask questions about things like who funded the research and how they are using it., how the study was designed. Regardless, we should start with the knowledge that there is every possibility that these studies are bullshit.

UPCOMING WEBINAR  – Size Acceptance and Eating Disorders – A Critical, Crucial, Core Conversation.
June 5th, 11am Pacific

If you’re interested in the use of the Size Acceptance and Health at Every Size paradigms in Eating Disorder treatment, then check out my webinar with EDRDPro. The webinar is June 5th from 11am-12pm Pacific time, and there are CEUs for RDs!
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Book and Dance Class Sale!  I’m on a journey to complete an IRONMAN triathlon, and I’m having a sale on all my books, DVDs, and digital downloads to help pay for it. You get books and dance classes, I get spandex clothes and bike parts. Everybody wins! If you want, you can check it out here!

Book Me!  I’d love to speak to your organization. You can get more information here or just e-mail me at ragen at danceswithfat dot org!

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Friday, 25 May 2018

Advocating for Yourself at the Doctor

My family had to switch insurance recently. That meant doing the thing that I hate the most ─ finding a new primary care provider. I dreaded it and stressed over it for months. Then I had my first appointment this week.

I needed to get in quickly to get a particular vaccination, so I took the first available appointment with the first available doctor. He was not one I would have picked for myself, since he specialized in men's health and sports medicine. Ugh ─ my experience is that sports specialists are very biased about people of size. I uneasily anticipated a fight over weight loss, weighing regularly, and lectures about nutrition, dieting, etc. I went in primed for a fight.

I am so happy to report I was totally wrong. Not that we were in total agreement about everything, but he listened very respectfully to my point of view and conceded some arguments. He took a very long time in my appointment, much longer than I expected, in order to get a very complete history, and he was very gentle and caring overall. What a tremendous relief!

To advocate for myself, I brought  the Health At Every Size Information for Providers cards from the blog Dances With Fat. That opened the conversation on a productive note; he appreciated me sharing my concerns so he could address them. The good thing about the cards is that they give a quick summary of Health at Every Size and there are research citations with links to the research. That kind of thing resonates with care providers and shows that HAES is not just about “giving up and letting yourself go” but truly about promoting health. Care providers respond better when they realize that.

Another thing I did was take informational handouts about Lipedema from the Fat Disorders website. Some doctors know about lipedema now, but it's surprising how many do not. And of those who do know about, many have only cursory information. It's very helpful to have a handout with details and research citations about lipedema if this is an issue for you. We had some interesting discussions about lipedema as a result. I think he learned a little bit more about it from me.

I also took in a one-sheet summary of my medical history. It lists all of my care providers (with contact info), any health conditions, all of my medications (with current dosages), and any history of surgery (with the year) etc. I don't have a lot of family medical history because I'm adopted, but what information I do have is very revealing, so that is on the sheet as well. The doctor was very impressed at having such a quick Cliff Note's version of my medical history and was happy I provided it. I highly recommend having a summary like this.

One thing I didn't need to do was question his care recommendations for me. That was so refreshing! He stuck to the issues at hand and didn't automatically recommend weight loss. Nice! When a doctor recommends weight loss and you are not interested, the best question to ask is, If I were thin, what tests and treatment would you recommend and why? Challenge the doctor to see you and treat you like any other patient, without seeing and trying to treat the fatness first.

I didn't do one of the most common things recommended to patients of size ─ bring along an advocate ─ but then I know how to advocate for myself pretty well these days. However, if you have trouble standing up for yourself or just need someone in your corner, I highly recommend taking an advocate to an appointment, either to get better care or just to take notes for you. I have done so in other types of appointments and it was very helpful.

 I think it also helps to look for specialties that tend to be more holistic, like a D.O. instead of an M.D. (both are fully qualified, just from different organizations), or who have a bigger picture of health, like a family doctor instead of an internist. Many practices now have Physician's Assistants and Nurse-Practitioners, and they often are more holistic and understanding than the M.D.s in the practice. Remember that midwives can also do gynecological care; many women of size choose to get their annual pap smears and care from a good nurse-midwife practice instead of an OB.

Never assume size-friendliness from a person's initials and certifications, however. Always ask lots of questions and don't assume that a certain title means size-friendliness. There are many wonderful doctors available and sadly, there are some very fat-phobic nurses and family doctors out there. Start with the least invasive, least high-tech specialty, but do your homework and ask lots of questions before making a final decision about the best care provider for you.

The Tricky Issue of Weighing


One of my main concerns in going to a new doctor was not having to weigh every time I visit. I was fine with getting on the scale for our initial appointment because I believe it's useful for them to have a baseline weight on record. However, I informed the doctor I would refuse to be weighed on repeat visits unless there were a pressing medical need for it (like impending surgery, weight-based dosing of certain drugs, certain conditions like Congestive Heart Failure, etc.).

He agreed that I always had the right of informed refusal, and he listened to my reasons of why I find it so triggering and objectionable. He said the med techs might still ask me each visit because it is so part of their routine, but that he would put in the chart that I should not be harassed or pressured about it (which has happened in the past). After a discussion we came to my usual compromise; I would be free to decline the weighing every visit, with the understanding that if there were large changes in my weight I would report them (because that can be a symptom of a medical problem), and if there was ever a legitimate medical need for weighing I would agree to do it. Weighing itself doesn't bother me, and I don't care what the number on the scale says. For me, it's the act of being weighed in public that is just very triggering and stigmatizing. It's part of my personal empowerment to refuse such unneeded requirements.

I should note that I've written about this before and people noted in the comments that when they refused to be weighed, some med techs told them they did not have the right to refuse, that the insurance companies required it in order for the visit to be paid for. This is baloney. Weighing is like any other test or "measure of health;" you always have the right to informed refusal. If you are firm in your boundaries, most of the time they will back down. I've had some fights over this but have always won because of the right of informed refusal. If all else fails, state strongly, "I DO NOT CONSENT." This has more legal heft because it could potentially lead to being sued. Most of the time they will stop badgering you.

However, according the comments on my previous post, once in a while there is a doctor who will dismiss you from the practice and refuse to provide care if you refuse to weigh at every visit. Even in the face of legitimate protests, some won't back down. All I can do is sympathize and say is you are better off without a provider like that. You have to decide if avoiding weigh-ins is worth it to stay with that particular provider. Generally speaking, a provider that doesn't respect the basic right of informed refusal is not worth having as a care provider anyhow. I would worry what other medical procedures or interventions they might try to bully me into. I would not want to stay with a provider who used such strong-arm tactics. They are not trustworthy. It would be a giant red flag to me.

If you don't have any other choice than to see that provider, do your utmost to challenge the decision. Don't make it easy on them to disregard your rights. Write letters to the practice manager, to the insurance company, to the hospital, etc. If you really do not have a choice, make it clear you are weighing under duress and launch a social media campaign against the practice. Do what you must to get the care that you need, but don't take medical bullying lying down. Even if you don't succeed in getting this rule changed right away, you might with time. At the very least, you put pressure on the doctor and force him to defend why he is disregarding the patient's right to autonomy in their medical decisions.

Concluding Thoughts

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Print this out and take it to your first visit with your provider
Finally, I just wanted to note that sometimes people of size avoid doctors because they are afraid of battles like these, of mistreatment and fat-phobic treatment. I know it's tempting to just avoid the battles altogether, but it's not wise. I would like to urge my readers NOT to avoid going to the doctor. As we age, it really is important that we go see a care provider regularly. It is very important to get regular lab work done to track the results over time, to catch any problems early, and to have a provider with a broad base of knowledge look for issues if needed.

Even though your past contacts with medical providers might be negative, it doesn't mean it will always be that way. You might luck into a truly size-friendly provider, or at least find a size-neutral provider who is willing to discuss things and compromise with you. More and more practices are trying to be open to a more size-neutral approach. There ARE good providers out there.

I learned that this week. I was all ready for a fight, and I was sooo pleasantly surprised that I didn't need one. My intent had been to use this doctor for the purpose of my vaccination, then switch to one of his colleagues, but now I think I'll stick with him. Finding a size-friendly provider can happen. It's best to be ready, just in case, but remember, you might be pleasantly surprised too. 


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Thursday, 24 May 2018

CrossFit Gym Confuses Fat Shaming With Advertising

You Forgot Your BullshitCrossFit Logan Martin in Pell City, Alabama has put up a sign that says “Tired of being fat and ugly? Just be ugly.” When people pointed out that being in the business of appearance-based shaming is not a great look for a gym (or, you know, anyone,) owner Scott White decided his best move was to tell the people who he targeted with his offensive ad how they should feel and react:

“Come in and talk to me. We’re super nice. I get along with everybody. I love everyone. We’re a Christian-based gym. And so a message of love is what we preach here. You know you can’t take yourself too seriously. Especially when it comes to a fitness journey.”

I’m not feeling the love there Scott (or the “super nice-ness”) and you’ve made it very clear how you feel about people who look like me, so the absolute last thing I’m going to do is walk into your gym to talk to people who put up this sign and then defended it. What I am feeling is that you think it’s perfectly ok to harm fat people. I’m feeling that you are likely being purposefully, aggressively obtuse. I’m feeling like it’s ridiculous to try to defend appearance-based shaming by claiming a “christian” identity. I mean, what’s next – selling WWJFS (Who Would Jesus Fat Shame) bracelets?

While obviously nobody of any size is obligated to participate in fitness (and participating doesn’t make someone better than those who don’t) the truth is that fitness culture can be incredibly unwelcoming to fat people, and then our thin-obsessed society turns around and blames and shames fat people for not engaging in fitness culture. Here is a place that is supposed to be about gaining fitness that, instead, is shaming fat people for how they look (and before somebody tries to claim otherwise, suggesting that fat people should want to look different than we do now is absolutely shaming people for how they look,) and suggesting that fat people should join CrossFit not to gain fitness, but so they aren’t the subject of shaming (like the kind of shaming the gym is doing with this sign.) Obviously, that’s total crap and what this gym is trying to do is profit from appearance-based stigma, and thus, they can bite me.

I also want to point out the all-too-common practice of someone who isn’t in a marginalized group making a “joke” at that group’s expense, and then trying to make themselves the arbiter of how the people they are oppressing should react – and the “correct” reaction always seems to be to calm down and learn to “take a joke.” I don’t think the problem is that marginalized populations can’t “take a joke,” I think the problem is that we live in a society that is comfortable telling groups of marginalized people that they need to “toughen up” and become better at being stigmatized and made fun of without complaint, so that other people can laugh at their expense without having to feel badly or have their bullying behavior pointed out. Oppressive behavior is not ok just because some people think it’s funny.

Most of the articles I’ve seen about this focus on whether or not the sign is legal. The gym was asked to take it down or face a $500 fine because it doesn’t meet the local requirements for a sign. Apparently, they’ve worked with the city and received a deadline extension and fatphobes have created a GoFundMe to cover the fees lest the gym not be able to shame fat people through signage.  Other articles claim (though without giving any method of calculation that I’ve seen) that the majority of people want the sign to stay up.

If that’s true it’s quite sad, but it really doesn’t matter to anyone who wants to be a decent human being, because it doesn’t matter how many people want to oppress a group, oppression is still wrong. And because internalized oppression is a thing, and no community is a monolith, it doesn’t even matter if some people who are part of the marginalized group think it’s ok. The standard shouldn’t be how many people are ok with a marginalized group being oppressed, the standard should be doing our best not to shame or marginalize anyone.

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Sunday, 20 May 2018

On the Fat Studies MOOO

As a Fat Studies academic, I’m delighted at the number of undergrad and grad students who are interested in studying Fat Studies. I’ve met them all over the world! Some want to take a course or two, some wish for a qualification in the discipline, and some would hope to acquire a terminal degree.

Unfortunately, nowhere in the world can you earn a qualification in Fat Studies. Some FS courses exist, mainly in the US, but neoliberal Universities are culling disciplines such as Women’s Studies, Queer Studies, Indigenous Studies – not supporting new ones. That’s why it’s important we support each other in our quest to study – learn – build – the discipline of Fat Studies. We share texts, we host conferences, we cultivate FB groups and Tumblrs, we share our lived experiences and connect with one another as best we can.

For my part, I act as an unofficial supervisor to many PhD students around the world; allowing them a space to talk about our epistemologies, and methodologies, and ontologies. To listen to rants about supervisors who just don’t get it, and share in the joy when something clicks. I also participate in #FatStudyGroup, a great tag created by @KivaBay as a way to co-construct our knowledge and share our literature with one another. It’s important work to do, and critical to building our field. And that’s why I’ve created the Fat Studies MOOO.

It isn’t a MOOC – it’s not an online course taking place over several weeks/months. Instead, it’s discrete events that will happen once a month. Guest scholars will bring their expertise on a topic within Fat Studies to share with a small group. I’ve envisioned this as a resource for students who are eager for a chance to take a course in Fat Studies, but it’s open to anyone – student – academic – activist – anyone – who wants to build their understanding of this field.

The first Fat Studies MOOO finds us in the company of Professor Esther Rothblum, exploring the discipline itself. Each month, a new scholar and a new topic. I’ve reached out to Fat Studies scholars from across the world. They are an incredible group of scholars and incredibly generous to share their wisdom. If you’d like to learn more, you can read the info here: https://friendofmarilyn.com/fat-studies-mooo/

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