THIS FAT OLD LADY’S FAT FRIDAY – FAT BODY EFFICIENCY WINS AGAIN

My thoughts on a recent study about fat people and exercise for weight loss:

https://thisfatoldlady.com/2021/09/04/this-fat-old-ladys-fat-friday-fat-body-efficiency-wins-again/

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Sarah Paulson’s Fat Suit Problem

Image Text: Excellent fat actors struggle to get good roles, so we don’t need thin actors wearing our bodies like a costume and cosplaying fat people.

In the upcoming series “”Impeachment: American Crime Story” Sarah Paulson plays Linda Tripp, wearing a fat suit. (Many of those defending this are calling it a “prosthetic” but, as Shakespeare once said, a fat suit by any other name would still be some harmful, fatphobic bullshit.)

David Oliver wrote about this in a piece for USA today in which I and several other fat activists are quoted.

When you give a quote for an article like this (in this case via email) it’s extremely common that they pull parts of it, break it up, etc. so for posterity, here is my full quote:

I’ll start by saying that I have been a fan of Sarah Paulson and I think she’s incredibly talented, I also know that there are equally talented fat actors who will never have the opportunities that Sarah Paulson has had, because there are so few roles for which they will be considered. I want a world where actors of all sizes get to play the lead, the romantic interest, the hero etc. but in the meantime, at the very least, I think that instead of having thin actors wear our bodies like a costume and cosplay fat people, fat actors should be cast in fat roles. This role should not have been offered to Sarah Paulson and, when it was, she should have said no and used her power and privilege to advocate for a fat actor to be cast.

You can read the full article here!

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Want To Fuck A Fat Chick? Try Fuck Buddies App

If you’re looking to hookup with a fat girl, you might not be sure which dating apps to try. Some of them are free, while others are paid and cost money. However, all of them can be used to help you find a fat girl. Here’s a list of dating apps that are specifically designed for fat chicks who want to hookup and make new friends in the process.

These are the apps that will help you find a fat chick, all the way down to her age, and the specific body type she wants. As with all dating apps, you need to sign up for one and create a profile. Once you are signed up, you can go through the profiles of fat girls looking for a fuck buddy and hook up with one of them.

There are other sites out there that offer the same sort of service but the point of these apps is that they are specifically tailored for fat chicks who are looking for buddies. The apps are free to use and they are easy to get started with. Here are the best fat girls dating apps you can find online today:

FuckBuddies.app

While it isn’t specifically made for finding fat chicks, this is a great site for anyone looking for casual sex. On FuckBuddies, you’ll find far more horny fat girls than any of the other big hookup apps in our experience. While you can get on the site with either your Facebook or your Instagram login, we recommend using Facebook to get started with this app as you won’t be able to search through the women’s profiles if you’re not logged in. There are many different ways to hook up on the site and the free profile area allows you to get to know other women.

One feature of the app that is really useful is that it will help you connect with the woman you like best based on the photos you add to your profile. This makes it easier to start a conversation if you like someone more than another, and if that person agrees to go out with you, you can both start a hookup quickly and easily.

If you’re looking to start a casual relationship, FuckBuddies is the best option for you. It is the perfect place to start meeting people in the area.

Adult Friend Finder

AFF is one of the most widely used adult dating apps for hookups and you can find fat chicks using it. We recommend signing up for this app using your Facebook login to get you started, but you can also use your Instagram login. You’ll find that a large number of the women who use the site are very horny and the app offers you the opportunity to meet women quickly if that’s what you’re looking for.

One thing to remember when using this app is that you can get a lot of messages if you have an account with this app. This can quickly become overwhelming if you start chatting to a lot of women. You can keep an eye on this by visiting your inbox, where you can see any messages you have received and you can also delete the messages that you don’t want. The free profile section is great for hooking up with people and you can also take part in the many other features of the app.

If you’re looking to make casual sex hookups, this is one of the best dating apps you can use today.

WooPlus

WooPlus is one of the best for meeting fat chicks looking to hookup. You can sign up for it using either your Facebook or your Instagram login. Once you have, you’ll need to create a profile and you can browse through the profiles of women on the site and if you find one that you like, you can send her a message and see if she is interested in a casual hookup.

You can then send her a message and see how interested she is in meeting up for a hookup.

When you meet a girl in person, you can take it from there. You might be able to talk about meeting up for a casual hookup or even meeting up for a serious relationship. WooPlus is a great way to find fat chicks looking for a one night stand.

Our Final Thoughts

If you’re looking to find fat chicks who are looking for friends who are also interested in casual sex, then using these apps can help you find exactly what you want and what you need. There are some fat chicks dating apps that you can’t use to find them, but these apps offer you the best chance of getting what you want and are looking for.

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Why Do I Need To Eat Every Day?

Yes, I know it’s because I’m human and we operate best if we eat with a certain amount of “eat multiple times a day” and “eat a variety of foods”. But it’s frustrating me at the moment, and I’m venting, so deal.

I know my pandemic experience has been a really good one. We have a house in the suburbs. We can go outside without immediately running into other people. The programmer has an office to work in – actually we all have an office. Plus other spaces! And a huge kitchen! Plus my husband likes to cook!

It’s the “not going to restaurants” thing that gets me down. Meal planning and cooking more started as a novelty, but now the “what do we eat today?” question is just … I’m over 50, y’all, and I get tired of trying to figure this out. Left to my own devices I would probably subsist on hummus (in single-serving packs), crackers (to scoop hummus with), bananas, and cheese. Or frozen food. And cookies. It’s a rut that served me fairly well after my pulmonary embolism. But it’s not really enough to thrive on.

I actually feel better when I eat more plants and otherwise have more variety. This week I got some baby spinach with the idea of making at least 2 salads. Instead, I added a salad’s worth of spinach to ramen (along with tuna and green onions.) Today I grabbed a big bowl and put in a few cups of spinach, shredded cheese, bacon bits, and salad dressing. I was a bit impressed with how good it tasted and that I was able to put it together quickly.

What are your food solutions these days?

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David’s Bridal Distributes Unsolicited Diet Propaganda To Plus Size Customers

Image Text: Dear David’s Bridal, sell wedding clothes not weight stigma

A reader let me know about this TikTok, where @stassiesims discusses the email that she got from David’s Bridal that was an advertisement for Weight Watchers (aka WW) She talks about the fatphobic nature of the email and laments the fact that she can’t return her dress to them since their return policy is seven days after purchase, even though it took them six months to get the dress to her, and to reveal themselves as a company that is willing to harm fat their fat customers for money.

@stassiesims

#davidsbridal what is actually wrong with you? #dobetter #plussizebride #bodypositivity #bride #wedding

♬ original sound – Anastasia

In good news, there is a follow up, which is that David’s Bridal corporate got in contact with her and when they said it was in response to their customers wanting to work on wellness, she pushed back that weight loss (which, she had the receipts to show, is what WW was explicitly selling by name in their ad) has nothing to do with wellness. David’s has agreed to let her return the dress, but not to end this toxic partnership.)

By the way, if this was really about “wellness” then why (according to a number of comments on the original video) did thin David’s thin customers NOT receive this email? Does David’s not want them to be “well?”

I call bullshit.

The fact that you have fat clients who want to buy your wedding clothes does not make it ok to send them unsolicited weight loss propaganda, which can be harmful to their physical and mental health, including and especially when you send the propaganda in the name of physical and mental health.

We will never know how many fat people David’s harmed, how many eating disorders they contributed to, how many customer’s self-esteem was damaged, how many will take another dangerous ride on the weight loss rollercoaster.

We know that, based on their own numbers, Weight Watchers program almost never succeeds in producing significant, long-term weight loss . In fact, the only things they do succeed at producing are weight stigma and a shit ton of profit.

Once a snake oil salesperson, always a snake oil salesperson. Yes, even if Snake Oil, Inc. claims that they are not selling snake oil, they are selling “wellness”. Yes, even if Snake Oil, Inc changes their name to SO, Inc. It’s. Still. Snake Oil. And I still don’t want it all over my wedding dress.

As someone who is currently in the market for a wedding dress, David’s Bridal is off my list unless and until they correct this. I will find a way to get a dress that doesn’t support the diet industry.

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Zero Fail by Carol Leonnig

Amazon link: Zero Fail

I found this a compelling book that details serious mistakes in Secret Service management and culture. In many ways the failures of described are human failures of the “I haven’t had a day off in weeks, why not go out to the bar? Why not bring a person I’m attracted to back to my hotel room?” It’s a compelling rationale, if you skip the details like “Need to be on duty tomorrow” or “My hotel room has sensitive information that would be really really useful for any wannabe assassins.”

Details matter.

The book reminded me of software teams I have known, and not just in the “We work hard and you can’t tell us how to change.” Like in tech, doing your job as an agent well doesn’t mean you’ll be a good manager. 

We are shown early in the book that consequences happen – if your misdeeds make the news. Everyone else gets a free pass. And, like many cultures, reformers are fighting both inertia AND specific sabotage from within. There aren’t easy answers, but it’s a good look at a problem culture with some amazing stories.

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I Survived

Well, I have survived my first surgery! Honestly everyone at the hospital was great, but I gotta give a special shout out to the anesthesiologist who saw the panic in my eyes but listened very carefully to all of my questions and made sure to explain everything and more to ease my mind. Seriously, a really great human! When I told him what the other doc had said about cannabis interacting with anesthesia and causing brain damage he was gobsmacked. “A doctor told you this? That’s just wrong. That’s so rude!” And my gallbladder removal surgery went exactly as planned without issue. All I remember in the actual room was scooting onto the operating table from my wheely bed (you know what they wheel you around on) and the surgeon explaining how things would go in which order. I had asked how my fat body would be moved back onto the wheely bed and they calmly explained that I was laying on a set of rollers of some kind that would make the transition smooth. Then each person in the room (6 total I think) introduced themselves, said my name and what procedure I would be having done. It felt a bit like a press conference for a celebrity only I was laying down and naked beneath a thin gauzy medical gown (that would have easily fit two of me inside). Then they put the “oxygen” mask over my face and instructed me to breathe deeply. No counting backwards or any of the old cliches. 

Next thing I knew I was waking up in recovery with RN Cassie trying to talk to me as I mostly just groaned in confusion and pain. I was so terrified of being put under but that was honestly the easiest bit. Cassie was very patient and kind and gave me ice chips and water and strawberry jello, and helped me get my knickers back on. Within half an hour I was dressed, visited the restroom, and on my way to the main entrance where my bestie J was waiting for me with his carriage (okay it’s a Toyota, but allow me to romanticize a scene now and then, yeah?!). I’m sure I said little and groaned more on the ride home, but J was the best, a tried and true ride or die. I was just super extra glad that I didn’t die. That paperwork they had me fill out really got into my head. Ugh! 

The next three days I mostly slept and took my meds and ate fruit. That’s seriously it! After that I stopped taking the oxycodone and stuck with the lovely combo of Motrin and acetaminophen. Gosh that stuff works great! I’ve been walking around like I have never had a knee injury in my life! I know I can’t take this stuff forever, surely that would fuck up my liver something awful, but it really helps feeling more steady and able to do things at home as needed. Yesterday I even chopped and roasted a ton of veggies that would have otherwise gone bad. Had I done that without the NSAIDS I would have been limping and in agony. I will definitely be discussing this with the surgeon at my follow up. 

Yesterday I went back to my office job and honestly, it was great! People were happy to see me, relieved even. My boss admitted he was worried. It’s nice to be valued. I get it in my head sometimes that what I do doesn’t matter, but yesterday showed me that’s ridiculous. While I had a ton of things to catch up on, I conquered it all and felt pretty darn good about myself to boot! I really wasn’t sure how I would feel or what I’d be walking into, but it all worked out well. Even if I did sleep like crap the night before. You know when it’s too hot without a fan but the fan is too noisy too?! Ugh! I am feeling hopeful though. Having this big scary thing over and done with is a massive load off my mind. I will eventually need to have a very similar surgery to remove a mystery mass they found when scanning my gallbladder (it’s benign but it grew), but I’m far less fearful about it all. And hey that scary “you’re gonna die” paperwork is all done! Ha-ha! 

Now if we could all just work together to end this darned pandemic, that would be greeeeeeeeat! Ha!

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